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The grass is always greener on the other side ...

We've all heard that a million times. I know that I have fallen for this many, many times. When I was younger it would be that I wished for things that others had. I've wished to be wealthier, to have a bigger home, nicer furniture, and more "me" time.

Over the years I THINK that I have relaxed a bit on being envious of others ... at least I have tried to. What I am most guilty of these days is wishing for the past ... for simpler times. I can't have that wish, but I struggle with it daily. Thinking back to days when I didn't have the schedule that I put on myself and our family. The problem with that is that back then, I thought things were hard too. It's all relative.

I've also found myself wishing I could be more ... smarter, a better writer, more articulate with my words when spoken, a better photographer, a better decorator, a better housekeeper, a better mom.

There are days that I wish my family lived in the places we have lived before because THEN I could be happier. Moving around a lot gives you a taste for different things which can be both positive and negative. There's the whole housing, lifestyle, education, and family issues that go along with this. I'm always wishing for perfection in all areas ... not sure that is even possible.

Life is good ... even GREAT at times. My children are happy, we have a nice house to live in, my husband makes a good living at a job that is fairly rewarding . WE ARE BLESSED ... I know that.

This dream for something different, something that someone else has, or something that I have had before - MY cross that I bear. I need to focus on being happy with what I have and not always wish for something that I don't have.
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Anonymous said…
I think many are bearing that same cross, {E}, me included. It is great that you are able to remind yourself of all of the blessings in your life. That shows that your mind is not always in "the trap" of wanting what other people have.

I have learned this fall that the grass is not always greener on the other side(as it relates to education) but it doesn't mean it is brown either. :) Life is about give and take. We give up some good things to get other good things and most often, things work out in the end as they were intended to be.

{W}
10:14 AM
Anonymous said…
I too have been there...feeling those very emotions, feeling the tug of the past, the tug of how life "could be", the desire for perfection. I have my ups and downs with these issues. Sometimes I feel confident and strong in my faith, other times I feel like my armor is filled with so many cracks and I feel so weak to these feelings. You are definitely not alone! :)
9:07 PM
Anonymous said…
I think mast people bear this cross, but it's harder for people who crave "variety" like I do. THe monotony of being a stay-at-home homeschooling mom is the hardest thing for me to cope with. THAT is my cross! Yours too?
3:01 PM
thesixburghmom said…
As others have mentioned, this is something we all have trouble with from time to time. Christy, put it nicely. It is so easy to say, "If I had this...then I would be happy." One of my toughest lessons has been to be happy in the present. It's a daily struggle, that's for sure!
1:31 PM
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