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10 years ago ...

I was a mommy living in California with 2 small children.  My days were mostly quiet, but busy taking care of my girls.  We played in the house, went for walks, had park play dates, went to the store, and did some cleaning.  Occasionally I would get together with a MOMS group ... taking turns at different homes.  My brother and SIL (at the time) lived there and we would gather at each other's homes for meals.

What I didn't do 10 years ago ...
  • check email
  • internet search and shop
  • participate in a mommy board
  • google
  • blog
  • facebook
There are days TODAY that I feel like my time on this computer is way too much.  I realize that many other moms (and dads) feel like this too.  However, I do know one thing and that is, I feel less alone.  No, I don't really know all the people who respond on my blog and there is a great chance that I will never meet many of the "friends" that I have found on the computer.  

At the end of the day, I don't feel quite as sad when I find myself spending the entire day JUST with my children and NOT with any other adult (until evening hours with the husband).  Years ago when I didn't have this computer to look at, I know that my husband would occasionally be dealing with a crying wife who complained about not having enough friends, never getting to do anything for herself, and feeling lonely.

Now, I do know that people (like myself) need real life friends that we can get together with, but I do think that this thing called the computer has made a huge impact on the life of mothers.  I know that I am really grateful for that!
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Rose said…
I totally agree! Especially for people who have to move frequently for their job or other reason, which takes them away from their friends and family. I started out online 9 or 10 years ago at MomsOnline and met a group of ladies that I still keep in touch with today! I've met many of them in person, but I do feel a connection to all of them. I also consider all the blogs I visit to be my "friends". I pray for them, think of them, inspired by them, and grateful for them. I also feel less lonely at those times when I can just turn on the computer and see what's going on in their lives. Thanks for such a great post, you are one of my "friends" online!
10:41 AM
Aimee said…
My thoughts exactly!! My older son is 12 and I've been a stay-at-home mom since he was born. I remember feeling so alone and sad and having many crying spells. The internet can be a wonderful thing! I never really thought about it until I read your blog, but yes, it can make a difference for us moms out there.
10:50 AM
Jen @ tatertotsandjello.com said…
Me too! I enjoy having my real life friends, but I love the ones I have made here too. A kind comment always brings a smile to my face. My husband travels all the time for work, so sometimes this is the only adult conversation I will have all day!

XOXO
Jen
11:55 AM
Rita said…
I also agree. For me, finding friends who are going through the same thing as I am has been such a blessing. I never knew there would be so many friends on a blog. I am really enjoying everyones encouragement and commits. I love being able to answer back to you guys too. : )
7:48 AM
Katie said…
So true! I just like to see "real" people in the blog world - I am sick of all the Hollywood junk!! And of course I love, love to check out Catholic blogs!
10:51 PM
southernjoy said…
I, for one, and very thankful for my internet friends!
5:28 PM
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